Wednesday, October 12, 2011
define normal.
i feel a little philosophical today. after recent happenings in camp. or rather, recent gossiping in camp.
it's funny how we despise/ostracise/outcast people when they're not "normal" compared to the rest. or rather, in other words, the minority is seen as abnormal. a simple search on google defined normal as: "Conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected." so i guess we are therefore JUSTIFIED to say that the minority is not normal? since the meaning of the word itself already excludes the atypical, the unusual, and the minority.
in recent weeks, my office people, including me, have discovered (to our delight and disgust) a few gay people in our camp. we had sources, so our discovery was like, by verbal means. anyway, the stories we've heard thus far, were greeted by both curiosity for more, and at the same time, utter disgust. the funny thing is how, some of us are so curious and want to hear more, but at the same time, think that these people should all just disappear. :/
for me, i'm honestly really really curious to know like, how gays see things, and how different they are from us, the
normal people. and i got one answer today, when i asked a certain someone today this question.
me: so do you find girls attractive?
him: er. looks only lor. but not sexually.
hm. which i guess is the same as normal people? it's like, okay, i can find that this guy looks handsome, but not sexually attractive to me! which tells me pretty much that, they're not so much different from us what. so what's with the outcasting and despise etc?
but the disgust comes when well, he talked about the uh various ***ual experiences he had. i guess i really can't accept it but at the same time i wonder whether he finds the "normal way" disgusting?
i always find that when we try to put ourselves in people's shoes and think, we would perhaps understand where they're coming from, though we might not understand how they feel, fully. like from his perspective, he'd see that he's normal, and that we're the abnormal ones. though perhaps he's long been pressurised by us to BELIEVE that he himself is the abnormal one, which truthfully speaking is really sad for anyone. what if it so happens that YOU were born that way?
hm that being said, i think if i found out that a gay likes me, i'd still feel very gaowei. so i'm not like totally acceptive of that concept yet. but i believe it's only right that we don't look at them with those tinted glasses like what a lot of ppl are doing. (in camp i mean.) and i find that it's very very demeaning and insulting to like group them like that and allocate them an "inferior status" just because they're gays. what difference is that from voldemort implementing the blood status thing to sort out muggle-borns and pure-bloods?
even though i talk so much, there are still some things that i really find unacceptable. that i will still find WEIRD or ABNORMAL. though i suppose being gay isn't really one of those pet peeves anymore. i'm not perfect, and therefore i understand why people find gays weird and abnormal. but if people all try to understand each other and not despise just because others are different, the world would be less biased and a much gayer/happier place to live in.
nice pun to end off my post ;)
ranted @ 10:41 PMSi Jie-
